Fall housecleaning is underway. This is of the variety savvy house cleaners refer to as “deep cleaning”–the kind where everything is hauled out, sorted through, furniture moved and places that haven’t seen the light of day for months are exposed. Dust bunnies are banished for the time being, windows are clean until the next rain after a dry spell, and finally that earring that fell under the dresser months ago is recovered.
This week, I’m tackling our bedroom. Yesterday was the cleanout of the dresser and closet (mine–Even though we are one, Michael and I have separate domains when it comes to our dressers and closets. If you opened drawers and doors you would see why–his are orderly, mine are usually not so much so).
The result was more room behind the the doors and in the drawers, several stacks and bags of stuff relocated to more suitable places in the house, a large black garbage bag of trash, and a smaller garbage bag of clothes and miscellaneous to the Salvation Army drop box (Oops–I just remembered: I forgot to drop it off. Oh well, it’s on its first step of the journey–the bag is in the trunk of the car.).
I was in a ruthless mood yesterday. As I was effortlessly, and without sentiment, pitching things, I was reminded again of how, in almost every other place in the world, I would be considered materially well-off–rich. I wear the same several outfits to church every Sunday, but not the same one or two every day for every season. I throw away as much paper in a day as some people have access to in a year. I threw away a pair of shoes that looked bad but could have walked many more miles (on someone else’s feet–they never did fit me quite right). Sometimes, the refrigerator and time get away from me and I end up tossing into the garbage some veggies that, properly cared for, might have fed a family in another place for several days.
With the current economic state, and now with a degree of uncertainty in our personal job/economic status (see yesterday’s post at this blog), we have talked about simplifying. We have always lived rather conservatively, but there are many, many things that slip easily from the “want” category into the “need” category. How do I keep it from happening? Several things come to mind:
1) Think replacement instead of aquisition. Is this item that has caught my eye “more” or is it to replace the worn-out or broken (not necessarily simply “old”) thing in my closet or on my kitchen shelf or in my living room?
2) Does every meal I prepare have to have a full course of meat, vegetable, fruit, grain? It is a new thought to me, especially now that I am more often than not just cooking for two or three, that a casserole with maybe a side of cottage cheese and or fruit, can be a nutritionally complete meal.
3) Give stuff that is still good a second life. This seems like a no-brainer, but sometimes it is just plain easier to throw something out than to bag or box it up and take it to the nearest Goodwill or Salvation Army drop box. “Do it now” is a good plan–I am more likely to get that bag to SA now that it is in my trunk (I’ll eventually need the space for groceries…those many bags of groceries) than if I’d put the bag down in the basement awaiting “someday”.
4) Restrain myself from the siren song of “new and improved”. I have a perfectly good camera, only a year old. As long as I am getting good pictures and it is working well and compatibly with my other technology, do I really need to fix my eye on the next version that appears in the marketplace? As long as I can accomplish what I need to, do I really need the fastest computer that is made? If my 10-year-old kitchen gadget is serving me well, do I need to buy the updated model at the next Pampered Chef party? Even the food on the shelves at the grocery can entice us in this way. Do I really need to pay for the extra convenience of a different kind of container for my canned fruit when that in the can I open with my hand can opener is 40 cents cheaper?
Today, in most of the world, I am a rich woman. Someone has said that contentment is not so much having what you want, but wanting what you have. I think the key to perspective is gratitude, recognizing that what I have is a gift–the very breath and mobility that enables daily earning power isn’t anything any one of us can work up on our own. When I begin to see myself as a humble recipient of anything that I call “mine”, my grip on it is loosened. I can enjoy what I have and joyfully share with those whose needs are greater than mine.
It might not be a bad way to live.
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